❥ Signs He is a Player;A Smooth Talker
There are all types of Players. You have the guys that are just downright disrespectful to women and talk about their sex life as if it means nothing and they aren’t afraid to invade your personal space either, and when they do invade your personal space (ex. telling you what they can do to you bed, throwing sexual comments at you without thinking twice, touching you or trying to feel on you when you barely know them.) It is very obvious to you what they want; sex and only sex.
But, you also have the guys that are very sneaky and that will lead you. The type that is very respectful, kind and they always know what to say, and when to say it. They seem almost too perfect and kind. They might strike up a conversation not even knowing who you are, this may be their first time ever meeting you, but they act like they know so much about you already that you feel as if you have known them your entire life. This is exactly what they want you to think.The more you think you know this guy, the more you feel comfortable around and the more you feel comfortable around him that’s the more chances he has of sleeping with you.
-A smooth talker will shower you with compliments, and some may be sincere, but if you have just met this guy and he in between the conversation he keeps throwing in compliments like; God, You are SO beautiful though, or “I’m listening to what you’re saying…But I’m so distracted by your beauty.” Anything that sounds rehearsed, not just those…Mostly likely he is a smooth talker. If a guy has just met you, he may compliment you of course, but he won’t keep saying it. Especially if he really likes you, because he may be scared of your reaction, not that you will get mad over him calling you beautiful, but he may not want you to know that he likes you, because he is not certain that you like him yet.
-A smooth talker will most likely give you a “pet” name; mainly because he cannot remember your name. He may talk to a lot of girls, and the number one mistake he does not want to make is; calling you by the wrong name. If you want to piss someone off, then do that. He knows this, so he will sneakily give you a pet name to avoid this mistake at all cost.
-A smooth talker can be very hard to reach and you might actually feel like you are chasing him instead of him chasing you. You can never seem to get in contact with him, or he is always on the rush. He might be on the rush because there are so many other girls he could be talking to, and most likely a smooth talker is not going to “wait” for you, when there are girls who will “give it up” to him so easily.
-Most smooth talkers not only know the right thing to say, but they are most likely nice-looking, have a cocky, or sometimes very confident attitude about themselves. They are conceited because they know that they look good and no, you cannot tell them otherwise.
-A smooth talker may try to be friends with you, so he can get close enough to you to see what your weakness is so he can then calculate how long it will be until he can sleep with you. He might even take the time out during the “friendship” to ask you if you’re a virgin, or how many boyfriends you have had, so he can see just how experienced you are not only with sex, but maybe also with guys in general. If you say that you’ve never had a boyfriend, if this smooth talker has bad intentions (plans) for you then he might think that you are gullible (easy to trick/play) or very naive (inexperienced) and that will make his “playing” you even easier.
-If he is extremely relaxed around and never shows any signs of being nervous when around or talking to you, then he might not be “into” you as you are with him. Not all guys are shy, but if someone really likes you then they might at least be a little nervous. (I’ll talk more about general body language in a later article)
-If he has a lot of female friends, and I know a lot of guys and girls have friends of the opposite sex, I have friends that are guys, but that is all we are: Just. Friends. But if he flirting with these other girls like he may be with you then he could be telling them the same things as you.
-He also may love to talk about himself in the conversation, although a guy that likes you may talk about himself out of nervousness, because they may want you to know more about them. A smooth talker on the other hand, may just be egocentric, which means everything is all about him, and he is extremely selfish with everything including his self and his time. Which another reason why he is always on the rush and go.
-When talking to a smooth talker he can fake very well. He might seem like he is very into the conversation by either throwing in a question about what you said or a simple nod agreeing with what you say. Most likely he will not correct you if you’re wrong about something when talking, because he probably doesn’t care about what you’re talking about, unless it’s something that he wants to talk about and I doubt that you want to talk about it.
-Most of the conversation could be focused on him, but then again he might not want to talk about him, only you. I say this because he might not want you to know anything about him, he really does not want to be your friend, nor does he really want to know “how you were doing today?” If you ask him something about his personal life and he is either extremely short with the answer or he might even distract you by showering you with a compliment. He doesn’t want to get to know you, because he isn’t ready for commitment and the more you know about him personally, the closer you will feel to him, and he may only want a one-night thrill with you.
-Lastly, A smooth talker can easily make you like him by his rare level of maturity, charm, confidence, and most of all his very nice, “smooth”, looks. This is one of the most popular players and successful players. Girls flock and throw themselves at him not only because of his nice looks, but his rare ability to know what to say and when to say. He will also deliver his words in a caring way that may actually make you think that he may genuinely care. This guy is extremely experienced when it comes to playing women. He may choose the woman he wants to play, by carefully paying attention to them and deciding how gullible they are, and which way to approach them.
For example; if the girl is quiet and very shy, he may approach her in a very respectful way, showering her with “You are Beautiful.” Compliments and “pretending” as if he genuinely cares for her. He will also try to be her friend, because she is shy and may feel uncomfortable and nervous with people in general, unless she knows them well. So, he figures if he can be her “friend” then she may feel like she getting to know him, when in reality he is only knowing more about her so he can use it against her in the end.
If the girl is outgoing and may talk a lot, he may approach her more directly by throwing sexual comments at her. Not in a degrading way really like I described the other player, but hinting at what he really wants, and trying to get straight to the point with this girl. She isn’t shy he may figure, so she can’t be that hard to get close to as far as knowing a little more about her enough to use it against her in the end.
I hope you have learned enough about “Smooth Talkers” in this article today. They are a type of player, and although there are many other type of players this one seems to be the most seen one of today. Remember that if a guy really likes you, you should not feel like you are chasing for their time. If someone really likes you they will make time for you eventually. It’s okay sometimes to take the first step, but if he is not putting in the same work then he might just not be into you, or he may have other girls that he knows for a fact that are going to “give it up” faster and easier without him putting in much effort. It might be hard to stop liking him but the number one thing you can do when you are trying to stop liking someone is to stop thinking about them. Do something that will keep your mind busy, because sometimes your own mind can be your own prison. When you are not thinking about something then it can and will not affect you no matter what.
ღ♥ Giving Up The Goods……Is He Worthy of Your Goodies?
When it comes to sex,women really do hold all the cards. Not only that,but all the power also.
Yea, it’s a simple as that.
If the woman doesn’t give up the “goods” then he does not have the “power”.
Men will not stop chasing you until they get what they want. Well,unless they get tired of chasing you..those guys weren’t worthy of your goodies anyway then.
If you make a man wait for goods then..when he does get them he would feel as if he won the lottery.Of course if “sex” is the only good thing you feel you have to offer..then that is not good. Unless that is all you want to offer…or feel that is the only worthy thing of you is your sex…”because it’s so amazing..explosive…wild..kinky..freaky…..etc”
If you want a relationship with a guy then you must have other good qualities about you besides sex.Yes physical attraction is a part of the reason he has approached you..but you need a personality for him to have any kind of emotional connection.If you just have this beautiful face and nice body without a personality that is all you have nothing else and defiantly nothing more.He will only want to sleep with you and then go his way.
Bottom line.Don’t do short terms with someone and expect long-term things out of the situation.If you sleep with a guy you have only known for a few days or weeks or even a month…what do you expect? A fairy tale ending?
Every guy that first meets you will have sex on their mind. Because they do not know who you are. They have not established that emotional connection with you. They all see physical. They will continue to chase you, but YOU have the “power”. Don’t give up so easily. Respect yourself!
After dating him for months..you ask..Is he worthy of my Goods?
How to tell If he is worthy
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He Calls without you reminded him
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He actually listens to you when two talk
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He respects you
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He doesn’t bring up the topic of sex or pressure you to have sex every-time you two are alone.
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He doesn’t just tell you he loves you, he shows you
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His actions speak louder than words;If he says he is going to do something he does it
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He is your best friend;He is Trust-worthy
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He is always there for you when you need him most
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He doesn’t put you down,he encourages you
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He makes you feel like your “The Only Girl in the World”
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He doesn’t start arguments……about why the sun is yellow and the grass is green..He doesn’t argue about stupid stuff.
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He is not jealous,controlling and possessive.
When He’s Not Worthy of Your Goods
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When you call he will not answer
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He’s a big ass liar…and you know it.
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He seems annoyed because you won’t give up the goods fast enough
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His favorite word is..*drumroll* Sex..he can not stop bringing it up and mentioning it every-time you two are alone.
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He can’t get enough of you;you always find his hands somewhere on your body..feeling on you everywhere.
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His lips are always trying to be best friends with your lips,your neck,and wherever else you ALLOW them to go.
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He is never there when you ask him…or when you need him.
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He just can’t trust him
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He talks to ALOT of girls
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He degrades women,and has no respect for them,and only sees them as a sex object.
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He makes you feel like your doing something wrong by not having sex with him
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Your “Lame” for not taking off your pants for him
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“If you loved him” or wanted to “Prove your love” you would give up the goods…
Not True. -
He reminds you of how long you two have been dating..so you can say “You know what we have been together for a really long time…maybe it is time to give it up.”…….Even though you have only been dating for 3 weeks.Or maybe you’re not dating at all “Just Flirting” or better yet..”Hanging Out.”
It does not matter if you are a virgin or any a new relationship and feel like a “Born-Again Virgin.” You should always treat your body like the diamond that it is. Never settled or degrade yourself to the point where you are ashamed of what you did.When you have sex with someone you should feel good about yourself and your decisions.
If you feel like something just “isn’t right” about him, then go with your instincts.Sometimes guys can seem “perfect” but they might just be assholes after they get what they want. Be careful and make him wait.Your worth it.
ღ♥ He Treats You Like Sh*t…Yet You Stay
Have you ever met a guy who seemed like a nice gentlemen at first?He seemed almost too perfect and too nice to you?
Turns out he was.
He’s a dog..and you should NEVER have time to train him. Yet,you stick around hoping that it’s just something he’s going through to cause him to act like such a asshole(that he truly he is)
When a guy feels like he has a “hold” on you or some type of power on you sometimes if they are complete assholes then they will start to treat you like sh*t. Of course they don’t start acting like that when they have first meet you, because they want to “win” you over.
[Side Note:Not all guys are assholes. Never be afraid to fall in love with someone. You just have to be careful about who you choose to fall in love with.]
But, one by one they will slowly start to test you and piss you off.They are testing you out like a guinea pig to see what you will tolerate.When he starts doing this, you need to start walking out the door. He is being a asshole on purpose.
Some Examples of him “Testing You”
*Texting other girls in front of you..No They aren’t “Friendly” text..He just has you thinking that.
*Talking over you when you and your friends are in a conversation,as if you do not matter
*He won’t pick up his phone…when you call…….even though it laying right next to him..
*He talks and flirts with girls right in front of you..as if your not even there …to him your not.
*He ask you to do him a favor….”Can you do my homework for me?” Oh..so now your his damn maid.
*He doesn’t show up when you want him to…He shows up when he gets ready to.
*He makes promises, that he KNOWS he is not going to keep..before he even makes them to you.
*He talks to you as if your nothing…and sees if you’ll stay with him..chances are..you will..in his mind he is going “Misson Accomplished…..I can do whatever I want
*He cheats on you the first time..you may curse him out…cut his tires..smash his windows out…but you STILL stay with him.Which means he will probably cheat again..and again..and again…because he knows your tolerance level. If he doesn’t cheat again, he is doing it out of fear of his Tires getting slashed,his windows getting smashed,or that awful mouth of yours cursing him out.But where is the love for you? A man should not want to cheat on you, because he loves you unconditionally and does not want any girl or woman besides you, not because he is scared of the monster in you.
You are still tolerating him.Also cursing him out,and cutting his tires,and even smashing out his windows proves that he has “power” over you. You are letting him get to you. You are letting him make you mad.Why?Is he really worth it? All of the time you are putting in bashing him,you could be out there find Mr.Right.Meanwhile though, you are too busy putting up with Mr.Wrong’s bullsh*t.
The question is ;Why do women stay with men that treat them this way?
Are they just too damn nice? So blindsided by love that they try to look over the Man’s “mistakes”? First off,if a man is treating you this way then it’s not love.A woman needs to love herself..any woman who constantly puts up with this kind of crap..must not realize how important it is to love herself first.She puts his needs and wants before her own. It is not love when a guy is putting you down emotionally and physically. When he says you are a piece of sh*t,because you didn’t do something the way he wanted it..that is not love.When he flirts with other women right in front of you is not LOVE.Also, when he man keeps making the same “Mistakes”..it’s not longer a mistake. A mistake is something you by accident..not intended. But when it is done on purpose..it is not a mistake..when he keeps doing it. Just to piss you off.
What is Love?
Love is when he treats you the way you need and want to be treated.
When you stay in a relationship where a man treats you like sh*t..is that the way you want to be treated? I hope that answer is NO.
Women need to stop putting up with these assholes.Life is to short to share it with a selfish,low-down, asshole who does not have self-respect for himself or you.Sometimes women do not have high self-esteem about themselves or any confidence about themselves and put up with a guy because they fear of being alone. They feel they need a man in their life. You should never feel like you need a man. You should always want a man..but never ever NEED.
Sincerely,Miss Advice.
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July 22, 2008
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