For Laura

Question:

I am in need of seriosu advice! I feel liek this guy only wants me physically. i met him 2 weeks after he broke up withhis girlfriend of 2 years. and we hooked up the second time we met. since then weve been seeing eachother. but we only see eachother when we are with his friends, then i end up sleeping over at his house. i feel liek its obvius that hes using me, but at the same time ive grown strong feelings for him. he has told me before that he likes me and woudl love to date me, but only when i brought up the topic.
i know that he has hooked up with one girl since weve been seeing eachother. but then he told me the only reason why he did that was becuase he heard that i hooked up with someone else.. AND I DIDNT.
i feel liek i shoudl just drop it and forget about him, but i dont know what to say to him and i dont know when its a good time to talk about it.
it woudl be really cool if you could help me i woudl realllyyy appreciate it

Answer & Advice:

Laura, you said that you met him 2 weeks after he broke up with his girlfriend of 2 years, that makes me think , that he still has feelings for her, and really isnt ready to commit to you, maybe he is afraid of getting hurt again, but thats only if his girlfriend hurt him, I have seen alot of guys do this, my ex-boyfriend and me were in a 3 year relationship, and then we he broke up with me, he kinda went wild,and was using girls just for sex, i dont know, if it was because he was tired of commitment, or I had hurt him so bad, that he refused to like a girl again,without using her, Well, Is this guy only trying to see you late at night?, Or whenever you see him, is it always at his house,?, if you answered yes, to these questions,then yes,he is probably using you, and also when you said he was seeing another girl,and said he only did it, because he heard you were doing the same, THAT is  a perfect excuse for a guy, I have heard so many guys say this to girls, It sounds like this guy isnt ready for commitment, I would drop him for now, and go find someone else, dont spend the rest of your life with a jerk, go find Mr.Right, Tell him, if he isnt ready for a commitment, to a relationshiptalk about it when you two are alone, and also If i were you I would stop going over his house late at night, (if you are), You are giving him a chance to use you, and dont make your self soavailable  to him, like calling him a thousand times a day, and he only calls you once, so many girls do that, I’ll be talking about that today though, of how to avoid guys using you, until then, if this wasnt enough advice, then, you can always ask your question again, and put more detail into it ,-) with you, then you are out the door, because you deserve someone who is going to treat you right, and that you are tired of waiting up for him, because there is some guy out there that would love to be with you, for you, not just for sex,

~ by MissAdvice on July 17, 2008.