There are all types of Players. You have the guys that are just downright disrespectful to women and talk about their sex life as if it means nothing and they aren’t afraid to invade your personal space either, and when they do invade your personal space (ex. telling you what they can do to you bed, throwing sexual comments at you without thinking twice, touching you or trying to feel on you when you barely know them.) It is very obvious to you what they want; sex and only sex.
But, you also have the guys that are very sneaky and that will lead you. The type that is very respectful, kind and they always know what to say, and when to say it. They seem almost too perfect and kind. They might strike up a conversation not even knowing who you are, this may be their first time ever meeting you, but they act like they know so much about you already that you feel as if you have known them your entire life. This is exactly what they want you to think.The more you think you know this guy, the more you feel comfortable around and the more you feel comfortable around him that’s the more chances he has of sleeping with you.
-A smooth talker will shower you with compliments, and some may be sincere, but if you have just met this guy and he in between the conversation he keeps throwing in compliments like; God, You are SO beautiful though, or “I’m listening to what you’re saying…But I’m so distracted by your beauty.” Anything that sounds rehearsed, not just those…Mostly likely he is a smooth talker. If a guy has just met you, he may compliment you of course, but he won’t keep saying it. Especially if he really likes you, because he may be scared of your reaction, not that you will get mad over him calling you beautiful, but he may not want you to know that he likes you, because he is not certain that you like him yet.
-A smooth talker will most likely give you a “pet” name; mainly because he cannot remember your name. He may talk to a lot of girls, and the number one mistake he does not want to make is; calling you by the wrong name. If you want to piss someone off, then do that. He knows this, so he will sneakily give you a pet name to avoid this mistake at all cost.
-A smooth talker can be very hard to reach and you might actually feel like you are chasing him instead of him chasing you. You can never seem to get in contact with him, or he is always on the rush. He might be on the rush because there are so many other girls he could be talking to, and most likely a smooth talker is not going to “wait” for you, when there are girls who will “give it up” to him so easily.
-Most smooth talkers not only know the right thing to say, but they are most likely nice-looking, have a cocky, or sometimes very confident attitude about themselves. They are conceited because they know that they look good and no, you cannot tell them otherwise.
-A smooth talker may try to be friends with you, so he can get close enough to you to see what your weakness is so he can then calculate how long it will be until he can sleep with you. He might even take the time out during the “friendship” to ask you if you’re a virgin, or how many boyfriends you have had, so he can see just how experienced you are not only with sex, but maybe also with guys in general. If you say that you’ve never had a boyfriend, if this smooth talker has bad intentions (plans) for you then he might think that you are gullible (easy to trick/play) or very naive (inexperienced) and that will make his “playing” you even easier.

-If he is extremely relaxed around and never shows any signs of being nervous when around or talking to you, then he might not be “into” you as you are with him. Not all guys are shy, but if someone really likes you then they might at least be a little nervous. (I’ll talk more about general body language in a later article)
-If he has a lot of female friends, and I know a lot of guys and girls have friends of the opposite sex, I have friends that are guys, but that is all we are: Just. Friends. But if he flirting with these other girls like he may be with you then he could be telling them the same things as you.
-He also may love to talk about himself in the conversation, although a guy that likes you may talk about himself out of nervousness, because they may want you to know more about them. A smooth talker on the other hand, may just be egocentric, which means everything is all about him, and he is extremely selfish with everything including his self and his time. Which another reason why he is always on the rush and go.
-When talking to a smooth talker he can fake very well. He might seem like he is very into the conversation by either throwing in a question about what you said or a simple nod agreeing with what you say. Most likely he will not correct you if you’re wrong about something when talking, because he probably doesn’t care about what you’re talking about, unless it’s something that he wants to talk about and I doubt that you want to talk about it.
-Most of the conversation could be focused on him, but then again he might not want to talk about him, only you. I say this because he might not want you to know anything about him, he really does not want to be your friend, nor does he really want to know “how you were doing today?” If you ask him something about his personal life and he is either extremely short with the answer or he might even distract you by showering you with a compliment. He doesn’t want to get to know you, because he isn’t ready for commitment and the more you know about him personally, the closer you will feel to him, and he may only want a one-night thrill with you.
-Lastly, A smooth talker can easily make you like him by his rare level of maturity, charm, confidence, and most of all his very nice, “smooth”, looks. This is one of the most popular players and successful players. Girls flock and throw themselves at him not only because of his nice looks, but his rare ability to know what to say and when to say. He will also deliver his words in a caring way that may actually make you think that he may genuinely care. This guy is extremely experienced when it comes to playing women. He may choose the woman he wants to play, by carefully paying attention to them and deciding how gullible they are, and which way to approach them.
For example; if the girl is quiet and very shy, he may approach her in a very respectful way, showering her with “You are Beautiful.” Compliments and “pretending” as if he genuinely cares for her. He will also try to be her friend, because she is shy and may feel uncomfortable and nervous with people in general, unless she knows them well. So, he figures if he can be her “friend” then she may feel like she getting to know him, when in reality he is only knowing more about her so he can use it against her in the end.
If the girl is outgoing and may talk a lot, he may approach her more directly by throwing sexual comments at her. Not in a degrading way really like I described the other player, but hinting at what he really wants, and trying to get straight to the point with this girl. She isn’t shy he may figure, so she can’t be that hard to get close to as far as knowing a little more about her enough to use it against her in the end.

I hope you have learned enough about “Smooth Talkers” in this article today. They are a type of player, and although there are many other type of players this one seems to be the most seen one of today. Remember that if a guy really likes you, you should not feel like you are chasing for their time. If someone really likes you they will make time for you eventually. It’s okay sometimes to take the first step, but if he is not putting in the same work then he might just not be into you, or he may have other girls that he knows for a fact that are going to “give it up” faster and easier without him putting in much effort. It might be hard to stop liking him but the number one thing you can do when you are trying to stop liking someone is to stop thinking about them. Do something that will keep your mind busy, because sometimes your own mind can be your own prison. When you are not thinking about something then it can and will not affect you no matter what.

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